Practical Ways To Help Three Year Old Children At Home

Three year old children are now able to have more control with their fine motor skills and have more understanding and heightened curiosity about the world. Parents as the educators can pass on values with small activities and help the child increase their self confidence in their daily lives.

The following are a few general examples to be implemented in the home.

(Not) Watching TV

  • Read a bedtime story every night even if it is only a short one. Make it a routine as it will also help children settle down at night.
  • Tell true stories at bed time instead of reading for variety of bedtime routine.
  • Borrow children’s books from your local library to add variety to the collection of books read.
  • Avoid using the TV as a babysitter. Limit the amount of time spent watching TV and videos etc. Set limited times when your child is allowed to watch TV.
  • Teach your child how to turn off the TV. Allow them to self-regulate as to when it is enough to be sitting in front of the TV.
  • Turn TV off when family are having meals. This is setting a good example of when to watch TV and allows for dinner conversation.


  • Take time to walk at your child’s pace when outdoors/in public.
  • When outdoors, spend time talking and looking at things along the way. Name things along the way to help your child’s vocabulary.
  • Use this time to share news regarding things that are related to family/friends, people and things that are important to you and your child.
  • Remind children to wear hats and sunscreen before going out to play.
  • Practice kerb drill when walking.
  • Help your child to know the meaning of traffic light colours.
  • Encourage the child to put each activity or toys away when completed or finished playing with them.
  • Encourage the child to be physically active as it leads to a feeling of well-being and helps promote good muscle tone and strong heart and helps deals with stress. It also helps them sleep better.
  • Encourage the family to exercise together dancing to favourite music, swimming at the closest aquatic centre or in your pool, kicking a ball at the park or in your backyard bushwalking, etc.
  • Encourage respect for the environment.
  • Involve the child in caring for the garden. Allow them to plant a small herb garden. Use the herbs to add taste to foods. This can also encourage them to eat the foods since they were involved in the preparation of the food.
  • Children can do small tasks that help develop respect for the environment by carrying the household compost to the compost bin or carry out the papers to the recycling bin.
  • Discourage waste for example, remind children to use one piece of paper for drawing and to use the other side as well. A chalkboard is less wasteful.

Forming good eating habits

  • Encourage the child to eat using child size cutlery. This can help them eat independently and gain confidence.
  • Encourage healthy eating habits to lessen the chance of diet related diseases by offering some children prefer raw vegetable. Offer sticks of carrot or celery. Offering a variety is good.
  • Plenty of wholegrain cereals such as breads, rice, pasta and noodles.
  • Lean meat, poultry and fish.
  • Offer milk, yoghurt and cheese.
  • Encourage children to drink water instead of juice or cordials or soft drinks contain sugar, preservatives intake.
  • Choose foods low in salt.
  • Expect the child to try new food but don’t insist that they eat it if they don’t like it.
  • Introduce foods repeatedly and they might one day change their mind and give it a try or even like it.
  • When at the dinner table ask questions and show interest in your child’s day.

How to encourage self esteem

  • Tell them that you love them.
  • Take time to listen to them and talk to them.
  • Spend time with them.
  • Help them to find the solutions to problems.
  • Encourage them to follow their interests.
  • Display their work in the home.
  • Celebrate their achievements and milestones even small ones.
  • Allow your child to choose between two appropriate sets of clothing.
  • Allow ample time for the child to dress themselves in the morning.
  • Encourage child to carry their own backpack, bag or personal belongings.
  • Help them to learn their surname address and phone number.
  • Observe the child and become aware of their interests, so that you can provide challenge.
  • Be friendly with error and remember that learning happens when a child is able to attempt a new activity with encouragement from adults.
  • When dealing with errors in grammar, no need to correct but one may repeat the sentence correctly to avoid humiliation for the child. It will keep the experience positive rather than having the feeling of being corrected / rebuked.
  • Give the child positive feedback and resist saying you did that the wrong way. Correct by setting the good example.
  • Remember it is the process of learning that is important not the product.

Activity Ideas

  • Encourage a love of music as music is wonderful to help with stress as a way of relaxation.
  • You could give the child access to a saucepan and wooden spoon or other kitchen paraphernalia that are safe.
  • Implements that are kept in a special place in the kitchen to be used for percussion, (tapping sticks, tubes etc.)
  • Pick your child up and dance with them in the kitchen (if it’s big enough).
  • If your lifestyle permits take a child to group music lessons which are fun (Yamaha do them using keyboard) children pick up music skills very quickly if you start at about 4-5 years.
  • If the child has a 2nd language spoken in the home, take them to Saturday language school.
  • Use everyday activities such as driving to school/day care to play games such as “I Spy” to help children learn their sounds.
  • Encourage children to play board games such as Junior Scrabble and Junior Monopoly. They will need a lot of help initially but this will help them to learn to take turns. Board games teach children a range of skills such as counting and word building and are good alternative to watching TV.
  • A chalkboard and chalk is an ideal way for children to practice drawing and writing as errors are so easy for them to erase.
  • Provide children with a variety of simple toys not an overwhelming number of elaborate expensive ones. Pack things away and rotate them so children can manage to tidy their toys away with very little help.
  • Children this age would enjoy puzzles, simple construction toys, simple musical instruments, play dough, plasticine, crayons, country pencils, puppets and books.
  • They love to create cubbies using old cardboard boxes, etc. Save old cardboard boxes for creative activities and such.

35 Comments on Practical Ways To Help Three Year Old Children At Home

  1. My God, I feel like such a failure as a dad. My wife and I have been struggling with finishing college and working as well as minding our son. The exhaustion and anxiety that I feel is squeezing the life out of me. My son is almost three. He is very shy, hates bathing, flatly refuses to use the toilet, I could go on. He goes to daycare, at great expense to our family, but we fear he is on the verge of getting kicked out due to the toilet training not being done yet. Every website I read makes me feel like I have failed him by not doing, planning enough constructive educational activities. I would say 95 percent are geared toward moms, which makes me feel inadequate all over again, as though I’m not up to the task of even caring about my son’s well being. I’m not sure what to do when the only thing I have ever done is survive the day.

  2. my daughter 3 year old is very interested in going to school. but when i teach her at home she makes excuses, she’s always looking for her tablet and watching youtube. i have been teaching her identifying colors but she’s not interested even the ABC’s and numbers.

  3. Hi my son is 3.3…Hez good at all the activities what you shared…but I wanna know what to teach him other than studies

  4. Hi my son is 3 yrs 3 months…. n already hez good at whatever u people gave tips…. I wanna know what to teach him other than studies.. because in up coming days at school he will learn them….

  5. My 3.5 yr boy isn’t talking yet.he says abc’s and counts 1-10,but i believe he does this passively.He says single words eg bye ,see you.He doesnt listen when you call his name and when you tell him to sit down and listen to stories,he start crying.he wants to do only the things he likes.i am geting frustrated.Any helpful ideas out there?

    • Hi,

      Please try to spend more time with your KID, monitor every thing he do and listen to him even if he speaks very little. Further talk about every thing with your child. Tell him about surroundings. Also get him checked up with Doctor may be their will be listening problem with your boy.

    • Have you had your child evaluated for autism? A friend of mine has a 3.5 year old with very limited language and some temperament issues who was diagnosed with autism.

  6. i have got lots of information from this but when my daughter eat by herself she is so slow and will take an hour so i prefer to feed her quickly. what am i suppose to do? the other question is without finishing her meal if she said i am full shall i accept it or try to reward or punish? thank you

  7. [quote name=”DenZita pimenta”]Whenever I try teaching my 3 year old alphabets/numbers he just gives excuses and wants to do some other activity .I guess I tried correcting him when he identifies the wrong letters /numbers and he has got the fear or lost interest …I have tried different ways ..please help[/quote]
    Please don’t pressurize…don make it one way-u teaching…make it two way…get if from him and share ur knowledge…it would be of great help….

  8. Very wonderful ideas that would enhance the thirst of bringing up our own chid in a very creative and beautiful way….Anyway that’s all a parent want!
    Good job.

  9. My child gets frustrated slot and don’t pick up as easily when i th to sit down teaching her attention span is short i need idea for a 3 1/2 year old please

    • I have a 3yr 5mth old child. he didnt start talking until he was 3yrs 13yr old and 10yr old started saying words and phrases when they were 2.5yrs.just to point out that children develop at different rates…faster,slower. One that i think is important is eye contact…
      If you have difficulty teaching the alphabet, sing it while tou are giving a bath, play preschools songs when toure in the car.i started playing them when he was much younger and when he could start to talk,he was singing along to the songs.

  10. Whenever I try teaching my 3 year old alphabets/numbers he just gives excuses and wants to do some other activity .I guess I tried correcting him when he identifies the wrong letters /numbers and he has got the fear or lost interest …I have tried different ways ..please help

  11. thank you for this information .I have 3-years kid but he does not talk well. He can say just 10 or less words .Is there activity to improve his language?

  12. Hello, I have never read anything about Montessori Theory’s before this page but it is as if someone had been standing over my, shoulder watching me raise my children & then posted it for every one to see…It is nice to know I’ve been on the right track all along!

    Thank you Maria Montessori

  13. I agree with the point about stopping the use of TV. It horrifies me that TV is used as a device to keep children quiet and engaged at regular “childcare” centres, instead of interacting with the teachers and each other.

    Regards Laurena
    Fridays Child Montessori Gold Coast

  14. this site is amazing.. it had helped me a lot . this site very helpful for all the parents who;s kids are in montessori.. it really works
    thank you

  15. it is absolutely true. we are responsible for our children’s future.

    home montessori helps a lot. i am mother of 3 kids and a montessori trained teacher.

  16. this is good. I am a full time nanny wanting to integrate montessori methods to a 2yr old and an almost 4yr old. I would like more activity ideas for these age if anyone care to share. thanks

  17. The information on your site is invaluable. Thank you so much. Our child is in a Montessori school but to know what we can do as parents is very helpful. Old habits die hard. It is good to be able to reflect and be aware of our own actions and decisions. There are so much ‘advise’ out there that laces with commercial interests telling us what we ‘need’ so we can raise our child properly. I am glad I discovered Montessori concept. Wish I knew about it earlier, but never too late. I am learning everyday. I hope more people in the general public know more about this philosophy. Thanks again.

  18. children are not coming to this world with a manual of instruction ! everybody do is best and therefore having their own questions about what they have to do with this little bundle of love …thank you for helping us Maria !

  19. I have 2 & 1/2 year old twin girls and they are wonderful. I have been teaching them along these lines for sometime now not even realising how similar they are to the montessori method. All children deserve this opportunity to grow and blossom to their full potential, they will be our leaders of the future, lets get it right the first time because we only get the one chance.

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